03:38 pm - three parts od dr.phil input and its all GREAT in put

Ten Relationship Myths
Think your relationship is a failure because you and your partner aren't following certain "rules" or meeting certain standards? Dr. Phil blows the whistle on 10 of the most common but dangerous relationship myths.

MYTH #1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON A GREAT MEETING OF THE MINDS
You will never see things through your partner's eyes because you are two entirely different people. You are genetically, physiologically, psychologically and historically different.

You will not solve your relationship problems by becoming more alike in your thinking. Men and women are wired differently. Attempting to blur your fundamentally different viewpoints is unnatural and even dangerous.

Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you're with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences.

MYTH #2: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES A GREAT ROMANCE
Yes, your life with your partner should include plenty of romance. But don't kid yourself and expect an unrealistic Hollywood fairytale. The truth is that in the real world, being in love is not like falling in love.

Falling in love is only the first stage of love. It's impossible to remain in that stage. A mature relationship will shift from dizzying infatuation to a deeper, more secure love.

Don't make the common mistake of thinking that when the initial wild passion fades you aren't in love anymore. The answer is not to start a new relationship so you can recapture that emotional high with someone else. The answer is to learn how to move on to the next stages of love for a different but richer experience.
MYTH #3: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES GREAT PROBLEM-SOLVING
Don't fall into the trap of believing that you and your partner can't be happy if you can't resolve your serious disagreements. Ninety percent of problems in a relationship are not solvable.

There are things that you and your partner disagree about and will continue to disagree about. Why can't you once and for all resolve these issues? Because in order to do so, one of you would have to sacrifice your values and beliefs.
You can simply agree to disagree and reach "emotional closure" even though you haven't reached closure on the issue.
MYTH #4: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES COMMON INTERESTS THAT BOND YOU TOGETHER FOREVER
There is nothing wrong with your relationship if you don't share common interests and activities.

If you and your partner are forcing yourselves to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension and conflict, don't do it!
MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IS A PEACEFUL ONE
Don't be afraid to argue because you think it's a sign of weakness or relationship breakdown. Even the healthiest couples argue.

If approached properly, arguing can actually help the relationship by (a) releasing tension and (b) instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can release feelings without being abandoned or humiliated.

Instead of worrying about how many times you argue, worry about how you argue. Here are some guidelines:


Don't abandon the issue and attack the worth of your partner during an argument.
Don't seek conflict because it's stimulating.
Don't pursue a take-no-prisoners approach in your arguments.
Don't avoid achieving emotional closure at the end of an argument.

MYTH #6: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP LETS YOU VENT ALL YOUR FEELINGS
Getting things off your chest might feel good, but when you blurt something out in the heat of the moment, you risk damaging your relationship permanently. Many relationships are destroyed when one partner can't forgive something that was said during uncensored venting.
Before you say something you might regret, bite your tongue and give yourself a moment to consider how you really feel. The things we say while we're letting loose often don't represent how we really feel and shouldn't be communicated — especially if they are potentially destructive.
MYTH #7: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX
The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.

Sex might not be everything but it registers higher (90 percent) on the "importance scale" if it's a source of frustration in your relationship. If your sex life is unfulfilled, it becomes a gigantic issue. On the other hand, couples that have satisfying sex lives rate sex at only 10 percent on the "importance scale."

Don't restrict your thinking by considering sex to be something that only consists of the actual physical act. Touching, caressing, holding hands and any means by which you provide physical comfort to your partner can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life.
MYTH #8: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP CANNOT SURVIVE A FLAWED PARTNER
Nobody's perfect. As long as your partner's quirks are non-abusive and non-destructive, you can learn to live with them.
Instead of focusing on your partner's shortcomings, remember the qualities that attracted you in the first place. Perhaps some of these idiosyncrasies were part of the attraction? Just because a behavior isn't mainstream, doesn't mean that it's toxic to the relationship.
Be careful to distinguish the difference between a partner with quirks and one with a serious problem. Serious problems that are destructive and abusive include substance abuse and mental/physical abuse. Unlike idiosyncrasies, these are not behaviors you should learn to live with.
MYTH #9: THERE IS A RIGHT WAY AND A WRONG WAY TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP GREAT
Nothing could be further from the truth. There is no definitive "right way" to be a good spouse, good parent, or to handle any relationship challenge that life throws you.

Do what works for you rather than following some standards you might have read in a book or heard from a well-meaning friend. If what you and your partner are doing is generating the results you want, stick with it. If both of you are comfortable with the principles that work, you can write your own rules.

Remember not to be rigid about the way in which you accept your partner's expressions of love. There is no "right way" for someone to love you. The fact that your partner expresses feelings differently doesn't make those feelings less genuine or of less value.
MYTH #10: YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN BECOME GREAT ONLY WHEN YOU STRAIGHTEN YOUR PARTNER OUT
Don't fall into the trap of believing that if you could change your partner, your relationship would be better. You are, at the very least, jointly accountable for the relationship.

Let go of the childlike notion that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness.

If your relationship is distressed, the most important person for you to change might be yourself. Once you identify the payoffs you are subconsciously seeking with destructive behavior, you can choose to remove them from your life.


Fixing a Broken Marriage
It is not too late: You can rescue your relationship and reconnect with your partner. It may not be easy, but here's Dr. Phil's advice on where to even begin.


Recognize that you have the power to redefine the relationship. Even if you feel like a victim, you play a role in setting up what is and isn't acceptable in your marriage.


Stop the ego-driven power struggle. Don't be a "right-fighter." Is it worth destroying your marriage so you can be right in every argument?


Make a promise to work on your marriage every single day — not just during the bad times, but also during the good ones.


Make a plan together to renegotiate the relationship. Even patterns that you've had for 20 years can be changed.


Your vows are about commitment, not method. If the methods you've been using aren't working, it's time to try new ones.



Roles in Marriage
Did your husband's mother take such good care of him growing up that now he doesn't know how to do anything for himself? If the division of labor in your relationship isn't working, Dr. Phil has advice.


Communicate. Instead of just complaining, be specific about what it is that you want. "We're trainable," says Dr. Phil, on behalf of all men. "You just have to put the dots close together!"


Negotiate. Every relationship is negotiated, and needs to be continually negotiated. Even if you've done things one way for 20 years, it's not too late to find a new way to share responsibilities. Find a division of labor that both of you can live with. Come up with new definitions for your relationship.


Work on things during times of peace. In the heat of an argument is no time to come up with solutions that will work for both of you. Don't expect things to change without working on changing them.


Love every idea for 15 minutes when you hear it. Sometimes we don't even consider ideas, or even elements of them that may work, when they may be a good starting point for compromise.


Try to see things through your partner's eyes. You need not necessarily switch roles completely, but you do need to understand what your spouse is saying.


Remember that your wife is your partner, not your mother. Don't expect her to clean up after you and cut your meat for you. Perhaps your mother did that when you were a child, but you're now in a partnership.


Stop being a "right-fighter." It doesn't matter if you're right if it's just not working. Would you rather be right, or be happily married?


Ask yourself: How much fun are you to live with? You don't want a spouse who resents you. Also, how happy are you making your partner? What can you do to make your spouse happier?


Do you think your spouse will put up with the set-up you've got long term? Don't mess with the nest. "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy," says Dr. Phil.


You teach people how to treat you. Stop tolerating it if you want things to change. Demand that he get more involved in the marriage.


Saving a Marriage
Couples who are trying to work their way back from a near-divorce are faced with the ultimate challenge. Rebuilding trust and infusing the partnership with love takes introspection, forgiveness and a lot of time and effort. Dr. Phil presents the following points for couples to consider when trying to heal a damaged relationship.


Homework: Write down what you need from your partner.
Dr. Phil asks couples to write down the 10 things that they would like to see more of (or less of) from their partner. This exercise can illuminate many of the misunderstandings that couples face.


What are you doing to contaminate your relationship?
Each partner carries emotional issues from the past into the current relationship. Be sure to examine what you are bringing into the dynamic as well as looking at what your partner is doing.


Have you built an emotional wall?
Many people have unconsciously built emotional walls that prevent them from truly becoming close with their friends and family. As you attempt to reconnect with your partner, be sure to ask yourself if you have blocked yourself off emotionally from the one you hope to be intimate with once again. And remember that you have to knock down your emotional wall — nobody can do it for you.


Make an effort to communicate from the heart.
When speaking to your partner, especially in a time of crisis, be sure that you are speaking from the heart and not simply saying the words that you think he or she wants to hear.


Ask yourselves if you've ever really met each other.
It is possible to be married for years and still not truly know each other. Many people hide behind social masks — a protective measure that keeps friends and family from really understanding them. Take the time to get to know yourself; it is a process that will ultimately lead to others knowing you as well.

03:35 pm - are you ready to leave your lover?...

Calling It Quits
Dr. Phil believes most people in America are too quick to get divorced. You shouldn't get a divorce, he says, until you have turned over every stone and investigated every avenue of rehabilitation possible. That means everything from reading books or going to a marriage counselor, to speaking to a clergy member and spending time focusing on you and your role in what's going on.

You need to ask yourself:


What was your marriage like when it worked?

When did it go wrong? Why?

Is what you're fighting about worth breaking up your marriage over?

What do you want?

What is it costing you to be in your relationship?

Are you willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work?

What are you doing to contaminate the relationship?
Do not make life-changing decisions in the midst of emotional turmoil. Such consequential decisions should not be made when tensions are high. Get on flat ground first so you can look at things more rationally.

"You know you're ready for a divorce when you can walk out the door with no anger, frustration or hurt. Otherwise, you've got unfinished business," "Unless and until you look each other in the eye feeling peace, no hatred or resentment, you're not ready to get a divorce."

03:30 pm - things to read and look at to better you'r life.. i read it all! and its all good stuff

How to Fight Fair
How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.

*Take it private and keep it private.
Fighting in front of your children is nothing short of child abuse. It can and will scar them emotionally — all because you don't have the self-control to contain yourself until you can talk privately.


*Keep it relevant.
Don't bring up old grudges or sore points when they don't belong in a particular argument. Put boundaries around the subject matter so that a fight doesn't deteriorate into a free-for-all.


*Keep it real.
Deal with the issue at hand, not with a symptom of the problem. Get real about what is bothering you, or you will come away from the exchange even more frustrated.


*Avoid character assassination.
Stay focused on the issue, rather than deteriorating to the point of attacking your partner personally. Don't let the fight degenerate into name-calling.


*Remain task-oriented.
Know what you want going into the disagreement. If you don't have a goal in mind, you won't know when you've achieved it.


*Allow for your partner to retreat with dignity.
How an argument ends is crucial. Recognize when an olive branch is being extended to you — perhaps in the form of an apology or a joke — and give your partner a face-saving way out of the disagreement.


*Be proportional in your intensity.
Every single thing you disagree about is not an earth-shattering event or issue. You do not have to get mad every time you have a right to be.


*There's a time limit.
Arguments should be temporary, so don't let them get out of hand. Don't allow the ugliness of an argument to stretch on indefinitely.




Life Strategies Personality Tests
We all have a certain way of "being in the world." Everybody has a look, an attitude, a certain role and demeanor that they choose when dealing with others. This is your personality and it dictates what you get back from the world. Here are some examples of personalities to which the world reacts. You may find yourself here, or you may have to create your own category.

Porcupine Personality

These people just seem to have a chip on their shoulder. They walk into every situation expecting to be offended. They're determined to find fault with anything and everything going on around them. No matter what the situation, they're quick to personalize any act or statement as offensive to their sensibilities. They're prickly. Trying to get close to them is like trying to hug a porcupine. As a result, people engage them, if at all, at arm's length. The world recognizes that interacting with the porcupine is a lose-lose situation. Porcupines typically complain about how cold people are around them; they're baffled by other people's standoffishness. Porcupines don't seem to understand that they act in that way, and that people are simply responding in kind.

To find out if you're a Porcupine, answer these questions:

1. Do people walk on eggshells around you, unsure when you will erupt in anger?

2. Do you often feel defensive no matter what anyone tries to bring up with you?

3. Do you "think" your mate can't do anything right?

4. Do you greet your mate at the door with problems before even saying hello?

5. Is hugging you like trying to hug a porcupine?


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Chicken Little Personality

The world is coming to an end and these people know it. Whether it's at work, at home, in their relationships, the economy, or the weather, a collapse is imminent. These people are anxious and urgent. They play the game of life with sweaty palms. They go from one imagined crisis to another. Others find their histrionics irritating and tiresome.

To find out if you're a Chicken Little, answer these questions:

1. Do you wake up several times in the night to check on your child?

2. Do you feel "doom" is lurking around every corner?

3. Do you always visualize the worst-case scenario?

4. Does your worrying irritate those around you?

5. Do you feel like there is always a crisis to deal with?


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Poser Personality

Posers might as well be mannequins in a department store display. They act in the most superficial manner imaginable. They behave as if stupidity were a virtue and superficiality divine. Their goal is to look better than you and make sure you know it. They spend most of their time striking poses and using phony self-criticisms to elicit compliments. Trying to make a Poser feel secure is like trying to fill a bottomless pit. Because they insist on engaging the world superficially, Posers create an experience devoid of genuineness and intimacy.

To find out if you're a Poser, answer these questions:

1. Do you always wear makeup when you leave your house?

2. Is your closet full of only designer labels?

3. Do you make sure you hold your designer purse with the label facing OUT at all times?

4. When you walk into a room, do you check to see if you look better than everyone else?

5. Would you rather be caught dead than seen in clothes from discount department stores?

6. Do you make friends based on their money, connections and prestige to make you look good?




Sexual Styles That Don't Match

*Are you a once-a-week person, while your partner is wanting it once a day? Does the difference in your sex drives cause problems in your relationship? A good sexual relationship is one that is gratifying to both partners ...
If your sexual relationship is not living up to your needs, stop complaining and start asking for what you want. This means you first need to look within to identify your needs. When you communicate, be specific.


*Do you really know what your partner wants? Find out. Maybe you and your partner are not as far apart as you think. Talk about things when you are both calm and rational. Don't blame each other; talk openly.


*Relationships are about negotiation and compromise — and it never stops. Carve out time. Negotiate a plan that works for both of you. Behave your way to success.


*Don't base a relationship on sex. You need love, compassion and caring — and then sex can be a reflection of that. Don't think of it in either/or terms: You can cuddle when it's time for that, have an active sex life as well, and have tremendous love and respect for each other throughout.


*Different people have a different language of love. For example, a lot of guys think, "I mowed the yard. Doesn't that say I love you?" Are you speaking a language that your partner understands?


*Look at your emotional needs because they affect your sexual relationship as well.


*What sexual baggage did you bring to the relationship? For example, if sex defined previous relationships that failed, you may be reluctant to get too sexually active in a new relationship. Look at your history and learn from it.


*Don't use sex for the wrong reasons, and burden it or load it up with too much meaning. (For example, it shouldn't be a way to validate your partner.) It should be an extension of the caring, feeling and respect you have for the other person.


*What kind of excuses are you making? If it's that your daughter is going to walk in, "put a cowbell on her," says Dr. Phil. It's OK to lock the door and tell your kids not to disturb Mom and Dad.


*Remember that quality, not quantity, is the most important factor.


*The choices you make have consequences. For example, if you choose to work, go to school and have a family, you may have very little left to invest in a sexual relationship. Change your behavior and decisions if you want different consequences. Try delegating responsibility if you're too exhausted or over-worked for sex.


*The quality of a relationship depends on how well it meets the needs of those involved. Consider your partner's needs as legitimate, and look at how you can meet those needs. Don't label your partner as being wrong or having something wrong with him/her because that dismisses the issue.


*Ask yourself or your partner: Are you really too tired? Or are you just tired of him/her?


*Are you getting him/her in the mood? If your version of foreplay is "Honey, here I come," you may try doing things differently. You may need to work a little harder to motivate, inspire, seduce or attract your partner.


*Talk to your doctor for more information about whether biochemical and hormonal factors can be contributing to a low sex drive.




Re-engineer Your Life

*If you're living beyond your means — emotionally, physically or financially — it may be time to re-engineer your life. That means more than making a few changes or altering a few priorities. It means you question everything, and look at your life in a whole new way.


*Do an "autopsy" on how you got into the situation you're in.
Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't. "In the years leading up to where you are now, there was a whole bunch of something you didn't get," Dr. Phil tells his guests.


*Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
You've made the choices that got you here. You need to own them before you can change them.


*You don't solve money problems with money.
If it's money troubles you're encountering, having someone pay all your bills and give you some extra spending cash wouldn't fix things. You need to make bigger changes that prevent the same problems from recurring.


*Change your language.
Stop using words like "have to" and "need" when they don't necessarily apply. Does your child "have to" have cable TV? (Dr. Phil is on network TV afterall!)


*Make decisions based on reality — not on guilt.
If you can't afford (in terms of time or money) to take care of five pets, then even if your child adores them, one or more may have to go. You may really want to buy your teenagers name-brand clothing, and they may tell you what misfits they'll be without a label on their shirt, but if you can't afford it, you just can't buy it. It's that simple.


*Be willing to downgrade.
You may have gotten used to a lifestyle that is not feasible. You may need to live in a smaller house, drive an older car, or change your budget.


*Be willing to challenge everything.
"There are no sacred cows when re-engineering your life," Dr. Phil says.


*Recognize that your overscheduling and overspending is hurting your family.
Children learn what they live. Is this how you want them to live?


*Give yourself permission to slow down and take care of yourself.
Do you really need to be at your son's football practices? What if you used that time to take a bubble bath, or to lie down and read a magazine? It's not a gift to your kids to make yourself sick. Don't be a martyr.


*Have a family meeting about how things are going to change.
Explain that you need to eliminate some of the moving parts. Don't be afraid of telling your kids that there will be some financial adjustments.


*Recognize that you're not in control of everything.
You just don't have that power. When you stop expecting that of yourself, you'll make more realistic choices.



Take Responsibility For Your Life

*Define your payoffs, then cut them out. You're getting something from your behavior, or else you wouldn't do it. Work on gaining confidence—low self-esteem and pent up guilt gives you an excuse to sit on the sidelines. It gives you an excuse to be less than you can be.


*Behave your way to success. Your past easily becomes your future because what you fear, you create. If you feel deprived of some experience, or emotion from some one else, give yourself emotional closure. Give yourself what you didn't get from someone else now. Create what you want out of life. If you want to be loved, be loveable. If you want to get your family interested in your life, get interested in their lives.


*You choose your behavior; you chose the consequences. You are an adult now and you need to take responsibility for your actions. You can't blame your family anymore. You are old enough to do something about your feelings. Your family can't take this on. The greatest stress in life is to hold someone else accountable for something they can't control. The only person you control is you.


*It all comes back to the life law statement, "You've got to name it before you can claim it." If you are stuck in an unsatisfying life, ask yourself what would make you happy? Write out what you need to hear from your family that you've never heard before. Be very specific. Give your list to your family. Ask them to read it, consider it and respond. Open your heart, put the spirit of criticism aside. Be ready to do the same for your family.



Seven Steps to Reaching Your Goals
Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate these seven steps for attaining each and every goal.

*1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.
For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. "Being happy," for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.

*2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.
How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?

*3. Assign a timeline to your goal.
Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you've created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.

*4. Choose a goal you can control.
Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can't.

*5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.

Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.

*6. Define your goal in terms of steps.
Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out.

*7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.

Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.

02:40 pm

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08:51 am - paint hehe its fun..

just alittle update.. was going to paint the office today but thought hewll its to BIG so im painting the bathroom.. hehe this is fun..lol. i'll post pics up tonight or tomorrow.. im heaind got bellingham tomorrow to get the rest of my stuff... from there.. thinking of getting the bed and or selling it too not 100% sure .. greg does not want it so im not sure what im goingto do with it.. any idea .. well take care yall and i'l have pics up asap,

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01:06 pm - because of you.. ..

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way
To never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because you know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake
A smile, a laugh everyday of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I watched you die
I heard you cry every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain
And now I cry in the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I tried my hardest just to forget everything
Because of you
I don't know how to let anyone else in
Because of you
I'm ashamed of my life
because it's empty
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of you
Because of you

Current Mood: gloomy

12:45 pm - did know this about reba?

During the 2005 CMT 100 Greatest Duets special, it was mentioned that the original duet for "The Heart Won't Lie" was to be with Kenny Rogers, not Vince Gill. When that fell through, Reba planned the song as a solo. It was only later that Vince was added.


The things Reba will do for the perfect picture! For the photo shoot for her 1996 album, What If It's You, Reba sat and stood on a swing that was suspended over the water by a crane!

Reba's brother, Pake, once had a Nashville record deal. In the 1980's, Pake had his own record deal on RCA Records and toured as Reba's opening act. He would do a fifteen-minute show of his own, then come back out and play in Reba's band. Today, Pake spends most of his time steer roping and selling insurance. He lives in Oklahoma.

Reba changed the first line of her single "You're Gonna Be" to "six pounds and nine ounces", because both her son Shelby and her granddaughter Chelsea weighed that much at birth.

Reba got her first bus in 1982. Before that she had been traveling in trucks, vans, and cars with horsetrailers full of equipment.

Reba and her sisters and brother would often sing three part harmony, taught by their mother, while on trips to her father's roping competitions.

Reba sang for the first time behind a microphone in first grade. She sang "Away in the Manger" during a Christmas program in the high school gymnasium.

Reba started gathering cattle on her dad's ranch at the age of six, and competed in rodeos by the time she was eleven. After she graduated high school, Reba competed in about fifty rodeos a year.

Reba was named after her grandmother, Reba Estelle Brassfield.

Reba first sang professionally at the age of four in Cheyenne , Wyoming on a rodeo trip. In a large crowd in the Edwards Hotel lobby, someone offered to pay her brother Pake to sing. Not wanting to be left out Reba sang "Jesus Love Me" for a nickel.

When Reba was a child, she, her sisters and brother would sell permits for $1 so deer hunters could hunt on her dad's ranch. This was how the children got the Christmas money.

Reba once held the record for the 75 yard dash in the Pittsburg County conference for track. She also cheered and played basketball. She even went to the basketball state finals.

Reba was in the Kiowa High Schools first and only cowboy band with her brother Pake and sister Susie. They played local Honky-Tonks and dance halls as The Singing McEntire's

Reba once had a race horse named after her high school mascot, Kiowa cowboy.

Reba's first number one, "Can't Even Get the Blues," almost didn't make it onto the Unlimited album, and it was the last single released.

Reba debuted at Carnegie Hall on October 28, 1987. It marked the first time she wore a dress by her stylist Sandi Spika. The show was a sellout.

Reba had been to the Grand Ole Opry for the first time when she was seven years old. It was a memorable trip for her because she got sick during the show and left the building, she ran outside and threw up on the front steps.

When Reba finally met Meryl Streep, one of her favorite actresses at an LA movie premier, Meryl hugged Reba and said she had always wanted to thank her for filling in for her during the 1991 Oscars. Reba performed the Oscar nominated song, "Checkin' Out," from Streep's movie, Postcards From the Edge.

Reba's niece, Garett Beck, played the character Tillie in Reba's CBS movie Secret of Giving. Garett also had a small part in Reba's movie Forever Love.

The 1997 Reba/Brooks & Dunn Tour was the largest grossing tour in Country Music history. In addition to a successful tour, Reba recorded the award winning duet "If You See Him" with her pals Brooks & Dunn. They performed the song together in concert.

Reba ended a busy few days of European promotion in June 1999 with a live in-store performance and signing session at London 's Virgin Megastore. Over 1,000 fans attended Reba's in-store, making it the biggest ever for a country entertainer.

Some of the dancers who have toured with Reba have gone on to perform in a couple of Broadway's hottest plays. Shaun Earl, who many of you may have seen in the “Fame” television series, was on Broadway last year in the hit play “Rent.” He also traveled with the Broadway road production around the country. And Bob Gaynor, who was on the same Reba tour as Shaun Earl, was in the Broadway production of “Aida.”

Reba wrote much of her best selling book Comfort From A Country Quilt while on the road. Her ever-present laptop came in very handy backstage before and after her concerts, and while travelling from city to city and country to country on tour.

Michael Higgins, the dance captain for Reba's "Singer's Diary" tour, has toured with Reba three times. He was part of her orginal dance crew in 1995 and 1996, and the Singer's Diary in 2000.

In 1996 Reba's tour was the largest arena tour to go on the road (of all genres).

In 1995-1996 Reba played to over 2 million people.

Reba debuted at the Grand Ole Opry on September 17, 1977. She almost wasn't let in because the guard at the Opry gate didn't see Reba's name on the list. Reba found a nearby phone and called her booking agent, Dick Blake, and he fixed the problem, and she was allowed in the building. That was a good thing because Reba's mom, dad and sister Alice had driven 1400 miles round trip for Reba's 3 minute performance. Her act was cut from 2 songs to 1 because of a surprise appearance by Dolly Parton.

When Reba toured Australia in 1998 she opened shows for Kenny Rogers. A year later, she sold out her own shows during a 12-city tour.

Before finding success in the music business, Reba was a barrel-racer who competed in many rodeos. In fact, it was at the National Finals Rodeo in 1974 that Reba's musical career got its start when she was discovered singing the National Anthem by Red Stegall.

In 1995 Before Reba visited Guatemala to film her music video for "And Still," she had to get the dreaded vaccination shot. Ouch! The song is featured on her Read My Mind CD which was the 1995 American Music Awards "Album Of The Year."

Reba's favorite video making experience was "On My Own", when she got to visit with pals, Linda Davis, Trisha Yearwood, and Martina McBride.

Reba has hosted the Academy of Country Music Awards more times than any other artist, a record seven times.

Reba signed her first record deal with Phonogram/Mercury Records on November 11, 1975.

According to CMT's 100 Greatest Love Songs, Reba's #1 hit single "The Heart Won't Lie" was only scheduled to be a solo performance by Reba. Later, it was turned into a duet with Reba's friend and former duet partner Vince Gill.

Reba's song "Baby's Gone Blues" from her It's Your Call album was also recorded by Patty Loveless.

Reba made her Carnegie Hall debut on October 28, 1987.

Reba received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in September 1998. It is located at 7000 Hollywood Blvd.

Reba's video for "The Night The Lights Went Out In Georgia" was shot at the Belmont Mansion in Nashville, TN.

Before working together on "Reba", Reba worked with co-star Chris Rich in The Gambler Returns - The Luck Of The Draw, a movie Chris starred in and associate produced.

"Redneck Woman" Gretchen Wilson sang on the demo for Reba's single "I'm Gonna Take That Mountain".

According to an interview with Reba during the Starting Over album release radio special, she passed on the song "Indepencence Day" when it came across her desk.

The movie Tremors was originally titled "Beneath Perfection".

Reba joined the cast of the Grand Ole Opry on January 17, 1986.

Reba re-recorded her hit songs "And Still" and "Fallin' Out Of Love" for her 1997 Moments and Memories: The Best Of Reba Australian release.

Reba's song "Everything That You Want" from her Read My Mind album was also recorded by Tanya Tucker. Tanya also recorded Reba's song "Nobody Dies From A Broken Heart" from her So Good Together album.

Reba's first professional solo recording session was with Glenn Keener on January 22 at Woodland Sound Studios in Nashville on January 22, 1976. There, she recorded her first single "I Don't Wanna Be A One Night Stand" which was then released in June.

Reba has been on the cover of TV Guide four times. Setting a record for the most times a country artist has appeared on the magazine.

Reba performed on the "Grand Ole Opry" for the first time on September 17th, 1977.

The temperature in California for both days of filming for Reba's video "I'm Gonna Take That Moutnain" reached close to 105 degrees.

On October 19, 1993 National Enquirer ran headlines about Reba's red dress at the Country Music Association Awards.

When Reba originally recorded "The Last One To Know", she recorded it as "The Wife Is The Last One To Know" instead of the original lyrics "Oh, Why Is The Last One To Know". Reba thought it was an error on the lyric sheet, but album producer Jimmy Bowen sent her to a recording studio to re-record that portion of the song.

Reba graduated from Southeastern Oklahoma State University in Durant, Oklahoma in December 1976 with a degree in Elementary Education with a minor in Music.

Reba guest starred in the "Fortysomething" episode of NBC's series Frasier in 1994.

Reba's CBS Movie Of The Week Secret Of Giving was originally titled "Christmas In Calico", the same name of the book the movie was adapted from.

Speaking of Secret Of Giving, the photo shoot for her Christmas album of the same name was held in the middle of summer in Nashville, TN... featuring fake snow flown in from California.

Reba's 1996 concert tour featured 16 trucks, 7 buses, 1 jet, 100 tour dates, 200-foot expandable stages, 3 separate performance areas, 10 dancers, 5 video cameras, 6 video screens, 96-person crew, 40 tons of equipment, and one incredible performer... REBA!

Reba performed "The Star-Spangled Banner" at the World Wrestling Federation's 1992 "Wrestlemania".

From "Can't Even Get The Blues No More" to "Somebody"... Reba has 22 Billboard #1 singles.

Reba and staff moved into the brand new Starstruck Entertainment offices in July 1996. Her What If It's You album was the first album to be recorded there by any artist.

11:07 am - Five hundred miles away from home.

Teardrops fell on moma's note
When I read the things she wrote
She said, we miss you boy, we love you
Come on home
Well I didn't have to pack
I had it all right on my back
Now I'm five hundred miles away from home
Chorus:
Away from home, away from home
Cold and tired and all alone
Yes, I'm five hundred miles away from home
It's hard to tell the state I'm in
Where I'm going, where I've been
But there's a dream I've been following so long
If mama knew the things I've done
She'd forgive them everyone
But i'm still five hundred miles away from home
Can't remember when I ate it's just thumb and walk and wait
And I'm still five hundred miles away from home
If my luck had been just right I'd be with them all tonight
But I'm still five hundred miles away from home

04:44 am - Sick for the past week....

Why hello to all that care anymore....lets start to say sunday night i was feeling alittle bad throat was hurting alittle.. tonsils getting bigger. then BAM fever hit me at 103.6 and would not drop so monday i wen't to the er and they got me down to 101/2 and sent me home.. but NO It had to hit again and with alot more power...Monday night in to tuesday and i lived with it.. then wensday it was back up mouth swolling everything was back and fever was 103.9 and not dropping so Michial took me back to the er. they did xrays and tested me for treap thorat tonsolites and mono and they all came back clean.
So they are not sure whats up.. and they r like maybe its time to take out you'r tonsils Im like hmm MAYBE cause its the 2nd time in the past month in ahalf im here cuase of this.
So anyway its Friday and im not in bed cause its all acting up again and feels liek my tonsils are touching eachothier in that case wont let me breath right and im burning up there for can't sleep in the bed with michial cause he can sleep... cause im at 103.5 and im more less a heater and he needs to work .. ive missed aweeks of work SOOOOOOOOOOO NOT GOOD. so im up on here .
Aside from dieing realllllllllllly slow im doing okay my apartments back to the good way with out alex my cusion who caused drama and stress liek no one i've ever met.. its sick so i had to finally kick him out i could not deal with it .. was not good for my relationship with michial. And i'd be damned it he screws it up .. so thats liek NO way bubye alex ..so hes living with some guy from work .. som pot head and he'll become one again and get in over his hed and then he'll need aplace to stay and i WON'T Let him back in here at all.. im done with him. thats all i have to wirte now yall ake care im going to lay down .

06:03 pm - u got good at goodbyes

Baby's Gotten Good at Goodbyes George Strait




What a rotten day this turned out to be
All the times before, she'd break down and cry


I still can't believe she'd leave so easily
She'd make her treats, but her heart wasn't set on goodbye.


She just got all her things, threw `em into a pile
She just wanted me to hear, what she had to say

Then loaded her car and said after a while
Now I'm lost for words sayin' she went away


She's done this before, but this time she didn't cry
She may not return, for this time she didn't cry


That's why I'm sittin' on the front porch

Starin' down the road,

Wonderin' if she'll come back, this time I don't know

Cause after she packed, when she looked back,
There were no tears in her eyes

And thats got me worried thinkin' maybe my baby's

Gotten good at goodbyes.

04:52 pm - money coming in to people but seems to be only ONE

Parity in Single-Income Families
If one person makes money outside the home, and the other maintains the home front — which i consider a reasonable division of labor — there must be equality. No matter which position you're in, find out how to get that balance:


Consider the effect of your actions on your partner's feelings and spirit, and try to see things from his/her perspective as well. What is it like for your partner to ask for money? What is it like to be responsible for all the bills?


If the set-up isn't working, renegotiate it. Don't build resentment toward a partner who is not outside of the home making money if that was something you agreed to.


A discretionary non-accountable income needs to be negotiated for both of you. Everyone should have some financial freedom. Having your own money helps you feel like you haven't given yourself up in order to be part of a relationship.


Validate your partner. You do not want to send the message that what your partner is doing is unimportant.


Share the process of bill paying and budgeting. This does not have to be one person's responsibility. Put trust in your partner and incorporate him/her into the process.


Don't put your partner in a situation where she has to demean herself to get money.


If you feel powerless or demeaned, be assertive enough to say: "I'm not a second-class citizen. I won't be treated this way. I am a partner, not an employee."


Don't tie love, emotion, sex and intimacy to your money issues. Deal with your emotions emotionally and with your finances financially.


If you've got a parent-child relationship with your spouse, you are sealing your fate. Children eventually rebel against the control and authority of a parent, break away, and become independent. Renegotiate the set-up.


Educate yourself. Even if you're not the breadwinner, you need to feel a part of your relationship — financially, emotionally and spiritually.........

07:26 pm - this here is something kinda cool..

Heres the 1st somg of reba mceniter i ever heard in 1984 this sone is what got me hooked on here ...her voices and all shes pretty over all an awsome lady...
Lyrics for Song: Take Me Back
Lyrics for Album: What Am I Gonna Do About You
Now and then I open up a trunk full of old souvenirs
Thumb through a scrapbook holding back the tears
I keep wishing we could do it once more
Just the way we did before

Take me back to Sycamore Park
Put the radio dial on the golden oldies
Hey lay a blanket down and hold me
We can stay all night
By the light of the moon above
So take me back, back to love

Ever since you took me to the big city
Looking for the start
Living in the fast lane
Is tearing us apart
Sometimes don't you want to trade it all in
For a little way back when

Take me back to Sycamore Park
Put the radio dial on the golden oldies
Hey lay a blanket down and hold me
We can stay all night
By the light of the moon above
So take me back, back to love

Well I remember sneaking out the back
Mama thought I was asleep
Watching for your headlights
Creeping down the street
Trying to steal a kiss
Just anyway we can
Back where it all began

Take me back to Sycamore Park
Put the radio dial on the golden oldies
Hey lay a blanket down and hold me
We can stay all night
By the light of the moon above
So take me back, back to love

Take me back to Sycamore Park
Put the radio dial on the golden oldies
Hey lay a blanket down and hold me
We can stay all night
By the light of the moon above
So take me back, back to love

12:48 pm - Big news for REBA Fans

REBA SEASON 2 ..YES its coming and its about time! i see what there doing one season a year and its in Dec they let it out.lol.. It's all good.. IM going to get it hehe



Pre-Order 'Reba' Season 2 on DVD!
Reba Season 2 is now available on DVD! You can pre-order the 3-disc set that will be released on December 13th through the Reba Shop on Amazon.com.

We will keep you updated as we receive more information on this release.

Disc 1 Side 1:
1. House Rules
2. Skating Away
3. Proud Reba
4. Reba Works for Brock

Disc 1 Side 2:
5. It's Jake's Party, Cry if You Want To
6. Safe Dating
7. Mommy Nearest
8. Switch

Disc 2 Side 1:
9. Ring-A-Ding
10. Cookies for Santa
11. A Moment in Time
12. The Vasectomy

Disc 2 Side 2:
13. The Rings
14. Seeing Red
15. Terry Holliway
16. Valentine's Day

Disc 3 Side 1:
17. The Feud
18. And the Grammy Goes To
19. The Wall
20. The Best Defense

Disc 3 Side 2:
21. For Sale, Cheap
22. The Will
23. Location, Location, Location
24. Your Place or Mine


Thanks to Greg and Hos Brother Andrew for lastyears christmas it was awsome and they got my season ONE i love it and now this year im going to buy season 2for myself..Npo one over here to watch it with but its life. wel yall take care and have a good week comeback again and read it after laborday weekedns over theres going to be alot added to this.
~Jasen

04:58 pm - can you hear me,.....

Hello
Can you hear me?
Am I gettin' through to you?
Hello
Is it late there?
There's a laughter on the line
Are you sure you're there alone?
Cause I'm
Tryin' to explain
Somethin's wrong
Ya just don't sound the same
Why don't you
Why don't you
Go outside
Go outside
Kiss the rain
Whenever you need me
Kiss the rain
Whenever I'm gone, too long.
If your lips
Feel lonely and thirsty
Kiss the rain
And wait for the dawn.
Keep in mind
We're under the same sky
And the nights
As empty for me, as for you
If ya feel
You can't wait till morinin'
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Hello
Do you miss me?
I hear you say you do
But not the way I'm missin' you
What's new?
How's the weather?
Is it stormy where you are?
Cause you sound so close but it feels like you're so far
Oh would it mean anything
If you knew
What I'm left imagining
In my mind
In my mind
Would you go
Would you go
Kiss the rain
And you'd fall over me
Think of me
Think of me
Think of me
Only me
Kiss the rain
Whenever you need me
Kiss the rain
Whenever I'm gone too long
If your lips
Feel hungry and tempted
Kiss the rain
and wait for the dawn
Keep in mind
We're under the same skies
And the nights
As empty for me, as for you
If you feel
You can't wait till morning
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Oooooohhhhh
Kiss the rain
Oooooohhhhh
Kiss the rain
Hello
Can ya hear me?
Can ya hear me?
Can ya hear me?

07:57 pm - life with out you!

When you walked out that door
I was so sure my world had ended
So sure I'd never get over you

On that first night alone
I cried so many tears it scared me
So many dreams that I had to let go
But now I know

That the world still turns and the sun still burns
And that's what I've learned without you
And the days roll on and my heart gets stronger too
Don't think I didn't love you
Just because I made it through
But I learned to love myself
Without you

I take myself to dinner
And I go to the movies solo
That's something I never did before

You may not understand this
But I don't' wait on invitations
I'm not afraid of the great unknown
Of being alone cause the

The world still turns and the sun still burns
And that's what I've learned without you
And the days roll on and my heart gets stronger too
Don't think I didn't love you
Just because I made it through
But I learned to love myself
Without you

I can even see myself
Falling in love with somebody else
Ready to take that chance again
Cause I know now
What I didn't know then

That the world still turns and the sun still burns
And that's what I've learned without you
And the days roll on and my heart gets stronger too
Don't think I didn't love you
Just because I made it through
But I learned to love myself
Without you

07:18 pm - For an old friend

If I had only known
It was the last walk in the rain
I'd keep you out for hours in the storm
I would hold your hand
Like a life line to my heart
Underneath the thunder we'd be warm
If I had only known
It was our last walk in the rain

If I had only known
I'd never hear your voice again
I'd memorize each thing you ever said
And on those lonely nights
I could think of them once more
Keep your words alive inside my head
If I had only known
I'd never hear your voice again

You were the treasure in my hand
You were the one who always stood beside me
So unaware I foolishly believed
That you would always be there
But then there came a day
And I turned my head and you slipped away

If I had only known
It was my last night by your side
I'd pray a miracle would stop the dawn
And when you'd smile at me
I would look into your eyes
And make sure you know my love
For you goes on and on
If I had only known
If I had only known
The love I would've shown
If I had only known

Current Mood: peaceful

07:13 pm

Under an old brass paperweight is my list of things to do today
Go to the bank and the hardware store, put a new lock on the cellar door
I cross 'em off as I get 'em done but when the sun is set
There's still more than a few things left I haven't got to yet

Go for a walk, say a little prayer
Take a deep breath of mountain air
Put on my glove and play some catch
It's time that I make time for that
Wade the shore and cast a line
Pick up a long lost friend of mine
Sit on the porch and give my girl a kiss
Start livin', that's the next thing on my list

Wouldn't change the course of fate but cuttin' the grass just had to wait
'Cause I've bot more important things like pushin' my kid on the backyard swing
I won't break my back for a million bucks I can't take to my grave
So why put off for tomorrow what I could get done today

Like go for a walk, say a little prayer
Take a deep breath of mountain air
Put on my glove and play some catch
It's time that I make time for that
Wade the shore and cast a line
Pick up a long lost friend of mine
Sit on the porch and give my girl a kiss
Start livin', that's the next thing on my list

Raise a little hell, laugh 'til it hurts
Put an extra five in the plate at church
Call up my folks just to chat
It's time that I make time for that
Stay up late, then oversleep
Show her what she means to me
Catch up on all the things I've always missed
Just start livin', that's the next thing on my list

Under an old brass paperweight
Is my list of things to do today


Preacher man talking about the end of time
Well, Lord knows I'm ready, it don't worry my mind
You see, I ain't afraid of nothing because I believe
I've got a sky full of angels watching over me

You can take my possessions
You can take all my gold
Nobody but Jesus gonna take my soul

Walk through darkness
I don't need no light
My faith in Jesus gonna be my guide
You see, I ain't afraid of nothing because I believe
I've got a sky full of of angels watching over me

You can take me for granted
You can take all my gold
Nobody but Jesus gonna take my soul

River's rising but I got no doubt
My sweet Savior's gonna pull me out
You see, I ain't afraid of nothing because I believe
I've got a sky full of angels watching over me

You can take my possessions
You can take all my gold
Nobody but Jesus gonna take my soul

I ain't afraid of nothing because I believe
I've got a sky full of angels watching over me

I ain't afraid of nothing because I believe
I've got a sky full of angels watching over me


A penny for my thoughts you say
You want to know what I could be thinking
But as I speak the music starts to play
And the words just somehow slip away

Read my mind
It will tell you that I love you and
You're all I ever wanted in a man
You'd see how I feel
What my head won't let my heart reveal
If only you could read my mind, read my mind

One look from you and one look at me
I'm trembling like a little girl
I tell myself if I can just believe
Any day now you'll fall in love with me

Read my mind
It will tell you that I love you and
You're all I ever wanted in a man
You'd see how I feel
What my head won't let my heart reveal
If only you could read my mind, read my mind

Tell me if you feel the same way I do
And tell me that I'm not mistakenly taken with you

You're all I ever wanted in a man
You see, all I need is everything you are to me
If you could somehow read my mind
You would see what I can't seem to say
If only you could, if you would read my mind
Read my mind

Current Mood: gloomy

08:58 pm

12:01 pm - has this happined to you ?

He took me to--our favorite spot
A place we go to hang a lot
Something seemed to catch his eye
Oh over my shoulder
Oh over my shoulder

I turned around--to see what's up
A pretty young thing sure enough
She was new--he wanted to
Know her
Know her

Oh--yeah-- then she flicked her hair (yeah!)
Oh--yeah--he began to stare

Waiter! (Waiter) Bring me water!
I gotta make him keep his cool
(Waiter) Bring me water!
He's acting like a fool
(Waiter) Bring me water!

Uh, oh, I did my best--to block his view
But it was like he could see through me
I just knew--he wanted to
Hold her
Hold her

Oh--yeah--I ain't gettin' nowhere (yeah!)
Oh--yeah--she's still standing there

Waiter! (Waiter) Bring me water!
I gotta make him keep his cool
(Waiter) Bring me water!
He's acting like a fool
(Waiter) Bring me water!

There's gotta be a way to cool this clown
He's starting to embarrass me
I may even have to hose him down
Bring me water
I don't know what he finds so distracting
What's so hot about her
I really don't like the way he's acting
Bring me water!

Uh, Bring it on!
Uhhhh
Oh
What's so hot about her
Uh, uh, uh,
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
(Waiter, bring me water)
Gotta make him keep his cool
(Waiter, bring me water)
Send him back to school
(Waiter, bring me water)
He's acting like a fool
(Waiter, bring me water)
Waiter, bring me water